When it comes to your sex life, too much of the same can often become predictable. And while plenty of things in life are mundane, your sex life shouldn't be one of them.
Research conducted by ONE Condoms shows more women have encouraged their partners into more sexually adventurous activity (21% vs 16%).
The results also suggest more than half of young people today would try any one of the following... sadism (66%), masochism (68%), anal sex (72%), public sex (68%), oral sex (93%) and making a sex video (70%), with numbers equally strong among men and women.
It's so important to keep your sex life exciting and fresh, satisfying sex makes you healthier, it reduces stress and anxiety and increases intimacy levels, meaning you and your partner always have a fulfilling and emotionally connected relationship both inside and outside of the bedroom.
If you’re looking for a quick boost to your sex life here are my top eight tips, use any of these or combine them to really up your Oh! Factor.
Enhance sex with a strong pelvic floor.
Kegel exercises are paramount to a good sex life. If you're unsure how to pinpoint your pelvic floor, kegel or pubococcygeus (PC) muscles, which are essentially lots of names for pretty much the same thing then all you need to do is stop and start your flow next time you go for a wee. You're using your pelvic floor to do this. It's this action that you'll need to perform to really give your pelvic floor a good workout. A strong pelvic floor increases your bladder control, which is great if you're a little older or have had kids. This in turns strengthens or 'tightens' your vagina muscles, boosting your sensitivity and arousal, whilst also leading to stronger, longer lasting orgasms – what's not to love about that?'
Take up some erotic fiction
There are tons of ways you and your partner can get in the mood for sex, whether that is alone or together. Erotic fiction is by far one of the more superior ways, and reading in a calm relaxed environment allows you to tune out external distractions and concentrate on your body. The stories are not only for entertainment, they can also give you some great ideas for what you and your other half can get up to. Other mood inducing activities you may want to consider are sensual massage, erotic messaging throughout the day or investing in an adults' only board game such as Monogamy or Nooki.
Mix up your routine
Mixing up your routine is a sure-fire way to keep things lively and fresh. You don't need to be swinging from the chandelier every single session – however, trying something new every now and then has been proven to increase your overall desire and, in turn, boost your libido. A really easy way to do this is to try a new location, even something as simple as taking your bedroom antics to the living room has shown to have a positive effect. Another great way to spice things up is to indulge in one another’s fantasies, however large or small. You should each write down at least three scenarios or positions you'd like to try and then compare notes. The idea is you exchange lists and each chooses a new position or act to try. Most couples find that they've written down at least one similar thing.
Experiment with sex toys
Sex toys are an amazing way to add a new dimension to masturbation, foreplay and sex. My number one, must have toy recommendation for couples is a vibrating cock ring. These stretchy little rings slide down and sit at the base of the penis; this restricts blood flow meaning that he stays harder for longer. The vibrating ones boast a mini vibrator that sits nicely against the clitoris meaning that she'll enjoy incredible external stimulation as well as internal penetration from her partner’s longer lasting, harder erection. It’s shown that couples who use cock rings regularly report experiencing better sex and better orgasms as well. Same sex partners can also benefit from cock rings, they turn any dildo into a vibrator and if you turn them around they can stimulate the perineum too.
Be a try-sexual.
Other ways you can ass an instant boost to your lovemaking is to expand your horizons a little. You and your partner should agree to try at least one new ‘thing’ every single week. Now this can be anything from a new position, to a new toy, a new place or a new scenario. It can be as little as listening to a different type of music or as big as trying something like restraint play or bondage. Whatever your new thing is it’s important to make sure you’re both ok with it. If it’s no from one of you then it has to be a no from both of you.
Lubricant is often only seen as fixing a problem rather than enhancing sexual intimacy, but this isn't actually true. Slicker sex is better sex, it’s a shame that Lubricant gets a bit of a bad name; many people feel using lube means that they've failed in either getting turned on or turning their partner on. Honestly, this just isn't true. Lubricant makes sex completely frictionless, leaving you able to enjoy every single sensation and be more sexually responsive. Make sure you're using the right type of lubricant for the job: water-based lube is safe to use with all sex toys and silicone based lube is great for sex in water, as it doesn't wash away and oil based if you’re treating your partner to a sensual massage.
Try some confidence-boosting tactics
In an ideal world, we'd all feel confident enough to explore our sexual selves on our own and with a partner. If you're lacking in confidence for whatever reason then I suggest indulging in a spot of retail therapy together. Bedroom wear has taken on a whole new lease of life and the choice nowadays is staggering. Dress for your body shape and you won't go far wrong. For a fuller figure a corset will look amazing. If you're slender, a body stocking or waspie might be more up your street. Think about choosing a flattering lighting scenario as well, candle light is by far the best, as well as positions that make you feel more confident. Lots of women find choosing a position that elongates their body really works wonders for their confidence levels.'
Be generous with compliments
Compliment your partner a little more often. Paying a little more attention to them is a great way to retune your relationship and become more involved with one another sexually. Someone who is made to feel desirable is far more likely to respond well to the advances of their partner. Equally, don't forget to communicate. Every good relationship is built on a foundation of trust, acceptance and mutual respect. The way you communicate with your partner has a strong influence on these factors so talking to each other and listening to one another are key skills to have and definitely help towards a top-notch sex life.
So there you have it, eight whole ways in which you can take your sex life from nought to sixty with ease. Just remember that safe sex is the best sex so no matter what new things you try always make sure to protect yourself – Enjoy!
Written by Annabelle Knight, ONE condoms sexpert
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