A new study by IllcitEncounters.com has found that affairs can be good for your health- both physically and mentally.

Does this make you happier and healthier?

Does this make you happier and healthier?

42% of cheaters clam that they've seen in improvement in their physical wellbeing since they started seeing someone other than their spouse.

But what is it that makes them feel so good in both brain and body? Well 91% agree that they exercise more and eat better to impress their new bit on the side- leading to better health overall.

There are supposedly many mental health benefits of having an affair too, as the site's spokesperson, Christian Grant, explains:

"We're very cognisant of the stigma surrounding affairs.

It's dangerous to generalize, yet many do it anyway. But this preconceived notion that an affair is overwhelmingly evil or negative is simply not true at all.

For several reasons, people get stuck in marriages that aren't working. People grow apart, sex isn't on the table anymore, and serious medical conditions can take their toll, too - it's impossible to not be broken down mentally because of that.

But despite this, a lot of people accept the status quo. Nobody wants to feel unloved, and an affair allows those stuck in dead marriages to remember what it is like to feel wanted again and fill in the gaps in their lives that are sorely missing at home, be they emotional or physical, hence the overwhelmingly positive response from our members.

They are far happier balancing two relationships, knowing that they are loved and wanted in at least one of them, than staying quiet and reserved in a relationship that is doing them more harm than good."

The journal of Personal Relationships (2011) also states:

"Individuals who are in insecure relationships are more vulnerable to longer-term health risks from conflict than are others."

It does not however suggest that the answer is an affair- another option is to go to relationship counselling to reduce the insecurities and conflict or leave the relationship altogether.

Psychologists, such as Douglas La Bier, have also claimed that "an affair can be a healthy act," as it "can provide feelings of affirmation and restore vitality, and can activate courage to leave the marriage when doing so is the healthiest path. The affair can generate greater emotional honesty and mature behaviour."

Linda, who responded to the survey, added:

"An affair helped me emotionally and physically. From the physical side of things, meeting someone new gave me greater motivation to exercise more and eat less - my health wasn't a massive issue for me soon after I got married, it didn't need to be.

Secondly, an affair made me realise just how sour my marriage had become, so I opened up to my husband about it. It gave me the courage to speak to him honestly about our physical relationship, or lack thereof, and we're now in an open relationship as a result - something we've both agreed to and are very happy with."

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