Who says the missionary position has to be boring?
The missionary position is a classic for a reason. It is one of the most comfortable and versatile sex positions. But we all know how easy it is to get stuck in a sex rut, especially with a long-term partner. Same time, same position, week in, week out. There are lots of ways to add a bit of variety to missionary position sex and really ramp things up in the bedroom. Here Lovehoney sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight has 10 tips on the very best missionary sex - including how not to get pregnant when you are doing it.
Skinning up - one of the beauties of sex in the missionary position is that it allows for lots of skin contact. Go for maximum skin contact. Rub your hands up and down your lover’s back or along their sides. Pull them close and feel your chests pressed together.
Keep on moving - the missionary position doesn’t mean you have to lie still as he moves. Try bending your knees, planting your feet on the mattress and moving your hips. You can rock your hips back and forth or move them in circles.
Play around - as many as four out of five women cannot climax purely through intercourse.The way to increase your chances of orgasm is by stimulating the clitoris during intercourse. The missionary position is particularly well suited to this. Simply reach down while he penetrates you and fiddle around.
Experiment with toys - introduce a small bullet vibrator into your lovemaking. These are super-cheap - Lovehoney do some great ones for less than a tenner. Either of you can use it to stimulate the clitoris before and during penetration.
Put a ring on it - why not experiment with one of the most popular couples’ sex toys - a vibrating love ring? This is worn around the penis during lovemaking. It restricts blood flow, giving him harder and longer erections. It contains a small bullet vibrator on top to maximise your pleasure by vibrating against clitoris while he grinds.
Gaze into my eyes - this has to be the most important plus for missionary sex when it comes to intimacy - you can look deeply into your lover’s eyes. One fun way to add real intimacy is to try to hold eye contact during orgasm - preferably during a shared orgasm when you are both climaxing together. What could be more intimate than seeing your partner’s spasms of pleasure?
Kink it up - introduce some handcuffs and possibly a blindfold just to add an element of surprise to proceedings and vary the routine. Without the ability to move your arms or see what is happening, every tiny touch will feel more intense.
Sweet whispers - taking advantage of the closeness of position by whispering sweet nothings in your lover’s ear. Tell them how much pleasure you are feeling, instruct them what to do next - whatever turns you on.
Try the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) - this is technique to gain more clitoral friction while in the missionary position. It involves the man shifting forward so that his penis penetrates at a more vertical angle. The goal is rubbing the clitoris with the base of the penis and the pelvic bone as he thrusts downwards.
Practising safe sex - the most effective safe sex method is using a condom. But the missionary position is the most popular with couples who like to use the withdrawal method for contraception. It is worth pointing out that the withdrawal method requires great self-control, experience and trust and it an unreliable way of avoiding unwanted pregnancy. Not all sperm is released at climax so even if he does pull out in time, you could still get pregnant. Men using the withdrawal method must be able to know when they are reaching the point in sexual excitement when ejaculation can no longer be stopped or postponed. Then it is time to pull-out. Withdrawal is far less effective than other contraceptive methods. If used commonly, it is only 78% effective, according to studies. It really is best avoided if you are trying to avoid pregnancy.