For a woman, a multiple orgams it can be one of two things - one really long, super orgasm or two or three in a row. A survey of 4,400 people from Lovehoney found that a whopping 75% of women had experienced a multiple orgams at some point in their lives. It also showed that women’s orgasms are typically slightly longer than men’s - hers lasting 10.9 seconds on average compared to 8.7 seconds for him. But how do you achieve the ultimate big-O? Here Lovehoney sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight provides 7 tips.
It’s easier for girls - because orgasm involves increases in circulation, heart rate, breath rate, brain activity, and muscular spasms, the refractory period (when the genitals are unresponsive to stimulation) after orgasm serves as a natural way to bring your bodily functions back to their baselines. One benefit of having a vagina is that women's refractory periods are typically much shorter than men's. The clitoris often only needs a minute or two before it can handle more stimulation, because women's bodies can stay at the peak of sexual excitement after orgasm. Men’s refractory periods can range from several minutes to a full day or longer, and they tend to be longer with age.
Get in the mood - You have a better chance of repeatedly peaking if you've already been ramped up by outside sexual stimulants — music, candles, massage, movies, whatever turns you on. What you are doing here is building up your sexual energy before you or someone else touches you.
Tease it out - Once your body is responding to touch, move on to genital stimulation but avoid penetration just yet. When aiming for multiple orgasms, it is often more effective for a woman to have her first orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation - this is best achieved with a vibrator or through oral or manual action. Try a wand vibrator - many women report that these non-penetrative toys providing powerful vibrators on and around the clitoris deliver more intense orgasms.
Put your orgasm on pause - take it slowly and try delaying orgasm until you can’t hold out any more. By backing off just before orgasm, then building up and pulling back several more times, you can significantly increase the amount of sexual tension coursing through your body. This not only heightens your chances for an explosive first orgasm, it also prepares you for others. Your body starts to expect that after you have one climax, you'll have another, because you've trained it to be ready for a rise and a fall.
Avoid roadblocks - many women have the potential to be multi-orgasmic, but there can be roadblocks. Those roadblocks are often mental, like putting too much pressure on yourself to make it happen. A watched pot never boils. Focus on the journey.
Continue arousal - after your first orgasm, it all comes down to experimentation. If your clitoris is so sensitive that you can't bear to touch it, loop in the rest of your body. Try different kinds of stimulation - playing with your breasts or having your partner kiss you everywhere except your clitoris. The point is to continue arousal in whichever form feels best for you. You can return to the clitoris when you feel ready.
Clench those muscles - focus on clenching your pubococcygeus (PC) muscle by using a kegel exerciser- this is a great way to extend your orgasms. This muscle stretches from the pubic bone to the coccyx forming the floor of the pelvic cavity and supporting the pelvic organs. By undertaking kegel exercises every day you will create a more powerful sensation during arousal, a tighter vaginal canal and bigger, better, longer orgasms for all. You'll also gain some health-related benefits such as improved continence and the lesser likelihood of having vaginal complications post-pregnancy – but we're mainly in it for the sex.