Today is #WisdomWednesday, so we thought we would take a look at some worlds of wisdom from the greats and see what we could glean about relationships from their famous words.
Relationships on Female First
"Nothing lowers the level of conversation more than raising the voice." -Stanley Horowitz
Shouting and screaming gets you nowhere, if you disagree with your partner- better to tell them and discuss each other's point of view. Let each other be heard- don't drown out your partner's voice, they are entitled to an opinion just as much as you are.
"When you like someone, you like them in spite of their faults. When you love someone, you love them with their faults." -Elizabeth Cameron
If you have been together a while you know what your partner's vices and downfalls are- but they become less irritating and more humorous as time goes on. They have to live with your idiosyncrasies so you should do the same- they make you both unique.
"Real love takes work. You have to be willing to make the effort." -Rabbi Weinberg
Relationships need more than an MOT every year- they need constant nurturing through conversation, affection and assurance. This doesn't come easily- think of it like a living thing- it needs 'water' and 'food' to be just like anything else that breathes.
"The happiness of life is made up of the little charities of a kiss or smile, a kind look, a heartfelt compliment." -Samuel Taylor Coleridge
Don't overlook the kiss as you come through the door, or as you say goodbye, that cup of tea or a loving text or email- they all count- more so than anything you could buy in a shop.
"The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring." -Oscar Wilde
Your partner may annoy you at times and you might not always see eye to eye- but it's better to be with them than to never know what true love is when things are good.
"No act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted." -Aesop
The touch of a hand, a cuddle, a kind word, they cost nothing and your partner will treasure them. These gestures are like presents with invisible wrapping all year round.
"Deal with the faults of others as gently as with your own." -Chinese proverb
You're not perfect and you make excuses for your behaviour when you make a mistake. Consider where they are emotionally and their background- what has led them to say or do what they have? It might not be what you perceive as a fault but simply a different perspective to your own.
'Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people-the ones who really belong in your life with come to you. And stay.'- Will Smith
If your partner cares for you- they will be at your side to whisper words of encouragement; to let you shine and move in closer in times of pain or difficulty.
"To love leaves us open to loss. But we do it to ourselves because it is worth it." -from Lark Rise to Candleford (BBC drama)
The inevitability of love is that you will one day be without each other- but a lifetime of loneliness and the 'what could have been' can hurt far more than loss.
"Love can make a summer fly, or a night seem like a lifetime." -Andrew Lloyd Webber
When you're together- it seems there are never enough hours in the day to fit everything in- but when you're apart or facing challenges together the days drag between the beginning and the end of your emotional or physical separation.
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