Learn To Love Yourself
It’s said that before others can love you, you must learn to love yourself and with the majority of British women feeling less than attractive it’s time to stop the self-loathing and start the self-loving.
A recent survey of 1,000 British women found that only a tiny two per cent of us would describe ourselves as beautiful; with most of us calling ourselves average.
It’s believed that if you believe that you are beautiful, then that confidence will shine through, leading you to feel better and for others to see a much happier you, and even being happy makes you more attractive!
Nikki Owen, Psychologist and TV presenter says that, instead of focusing on the negatives, focus on the thing you like most about yourself and address that every time you look in a mirror.
She tells the Daily Mail, “When your eyes take in something that pleases you, your brain’s reward system is activated and you will see an almost instant improvement on your face.”
Do not compare yourself to other women; you should celebrate your own beauty instead of that of other women.
Psychologist Linda Papadopoulos says it’s also crucial that you surround yourself with friends who are confident in their appearance.
She says, “It’s hard to feel good about your looks if you socialise with people who are constantly negative.”
Everyone likes to see a smile, so smile as often as you can. Obviously don’t smile all the time, not only will it look odd but your face will be hurting by the end of the day.
Saying that, it’s said that a smile relaxes the muscles in your face, making you look younger. Your smile will also encourage people to smile back, giving you an instant boost.
It seems like the simplest thing, but almost all of us never do it, say thank you! When someone compliments you, instead of answering ‘No, I look a mess!’ say thank you. If you start refusing the compliments, people are less likely to give them. Once you start to accept them you will see that more flood in.
Psychologist Cathrine Jansson-Boyd says that you should see your floors as features, and think of them fondly.
She told the Daily Mail, “Try to take in your physical attributes the way you would those of a child or friend — with appreciation and acceptance, not criticism.”
Loving yourself isn’t always easy, we all have those days where we wake up and want the bed sheets to swallow us back up again but if you greet yourself with acceptance and positive thoughts you’ll see the compliments flooding in and your confidence boost to all new levels.
Cara Mason
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