Valentine’s Day is looming and a many couples are looking forward to it, but if you are single it can cause a lot of anxious feeling in the run up to it. Julie- Ann Shapiro tells you why it is important to jump in there and get the ball rolling sooner rather than later!

Valentine's Day on Female First

Valentine's Day on Female First

Why should people already be thinking of Valentine’s day?

Valentine’s Day is so associated with love.  It is a time of year that can be especially hard as a single woman who would love to be in a relationship.  The loneliness and disappointment when she sees other couples in love celebrating can feel crushing.  Therefore it’s good to start preparing now to attract your very own Valentine!

What can single people do to prepare themselves for bagging a Valentine in Feb?

Success with attracting true love can only come from a place of joy and happiness within yourself. 

Stop wishing – be on a mission

Rather than dreaming, hoping, wishing and longing for love, realize you have the power to attract love and your very own Valentine. So instead of passively waiting for love to come along, concentrate on becoming your very best YOU and be on a mission to magnetize the love of your life.

Love Yourself Up 

Watch out for those old negative thoughts and beliefs – they actually run your love life.  If you’re walking around thinking “I’m not good enough” or “I’m not lovable” you will probably meet men who don’t think you are either.  Start telling yourself what you would love you’re Valentine to tell you; that you’re beautiful, loveable and so worthy of love.

Stop doing, start being

We often focus on the external obstacles to love and think if only we were thinner, fitter, slimmer, had more money, had better hair and teeth or joined the next site then maybe just maybe we would get love. 

But love has less to do with what you’re doing and everything to do with the person you are being.  When you stop focusing on finding the right person and instead focus on being the right person, magically the right person comes along.  So focus on the inner you and becoming the most delicious version of yourself and you’ll attract a man who finds you totally irresistible.

Be around supportive, uplifting people

Surround yourself with positive, supportive people and limit the time you spend with unsupportive people.  Don’t engage in negative conversations for example how men are all the same or love is impossible.

Tell friends you trust about your mission for love and ask for their support.  Get clear on your ideal man and what you need in a relationship, then ask your friends to let you know if they come across an ideal match for you.

Write an Irresistible Online Dating Profile

So now that you’ve focused on the inner you, it’s time to put out your love signal!

This kind of profile will eliminate the kinds of men you don’t want and only attract good matches for you.

You want your profile to state clearly and confidently who you are, what you need and what you’re looking for, while also being receptive, open, engaging and welcoming to another person.

Julie-Anne’s top tips:

Write about your life-values and your life-vision

Shared life-values and life-vision are essential for lasting love so get clear on yours now.

Use sensory language

Describe how it feels to do the things you love and enjoy to give the reader an experience of you.

Ask a friend to write about their experience of being your friend

Then use some of these elements in your profile.  This gives the reader an insight into what it’s like to be in relationship with you.

Know the top 3 things you MUST have for it to work

Be honest!

Don’t lie about your age or use false photos!  If you want children, state it clearly.  If you don’t, state it clearly.

Your Photos

Use photos that convey warmth, confidence and radiance. 

Follow these top 5 things now and draw towards you your 2014 Valentine – like a magnet.


Julie-Anne Shapiro is an International Love & Relationship Expert, Speaker and Founder of Magnetizing Love. She has helped thousands of women around the world to find and keep the love of their life through private coaching (can be taken via Skype from anywhere in the world), dynamic live events and homestudy programs.

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