How can we explore and enjoy our sexuality and avoid unwanted pregnancy or getting a sexually transmitted infection? Many of us know the basic answers, but in the heat of the moment, most of us have, at some point, decided “screw it” and left out the protection step. If that’s ever been you, just follow the 7 tips below from Lovehoney’s sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight to help you stay safe, each and every time.
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1. BYOC (bring your own condom)
Don’t rely on a partner to have condoms, dams, or lube. Always have your own supply, and check the expiration dates before use.
2. Role-play safer-sex conversations with friends
Brainstorming strategies for dealing with difficult responses and practicing what to say can help you to be more comfortable and assertive when the time comes to talk about it for real. The best input and advice may come from people who share your experiences and who truly understand your concerns.
3. Create basic limits and boundaries around safer sex in advance
Writing them down can help remind you that they’re important and non-negotiable.
4. Make safer sex part of sex, rather than something that interrupts sex
For example, put on male or female condoms together.
5. Don’t rush into higher-risk activities
First, take your time with low- or no-risk activities, which can help build trust and communication (and also feel really good).
6. Choose partners who don’t put all the responsibility for safer sex on you
Look for partners who are comfortable putting safety discussions on the table.
7. Condoms remain the safest form of protection
There are risks in other methods, particularly withdrawal. This gives you no protection from STIs and there is sperm in the pre-ejaculate so you can still get pregnant. If his sperm is deposited right outside the vagina, those sperm can swim and still cause pregnancy.