Andrea asks :
Hi Lucy,
My partner of nearly seven years and I had an argument 4 days ago. He left and went to his own house and is ignoring all texts and ends any call I try to make. This is not like him- I am 40 he is 53. I know we are not kids and he obviously does not want to see or hear me but I've told him to let me know he's fine. He's a driver and I want my mind at ease. He knows me so why would he not even let me know? Why continue to be cold when this is not his nature?
Hi Andrea,
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It sounds like whatever you argued about has hit a nerve with him and its taking him a little longer than normal to think it over.
If you have tried everything you can, then perhaps he just needs some more time to cool off and mull things over. If he is ending your calls, then it sounds like he is well, just perhaps not ready to talk yet.
If you are really worried about him, then perhaps contact one of his friends or family members just to make sure he is ok.
He might be being cold if the argument you had dragged up something from the past or something he is sensitive about.
He may be so absorbed by his own thoughts right now that he hasn't considered how making no contact will affect you.
Perhaps wait until he is ready to talk to you as it sounds like your efforts are not currently working.
Have you replayed the argument? Have you thought about what could have made him act so uncharacteristically? It might help to try and pre-empt what it was that set him off and try to be sensitive to it when you talk again.
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