Kirsty asks :

Hi Lucy, 

Me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday because apparently he was too stressed and depressed but I didn't do anything apparently. I don't know what to do, I miss him so much and I just want him back. Please help.

 

Hi Kirsty,

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If he is telling the truth when he says that you didn't do anything then perhaps you can offer to talk to him. He may think that his stress and depression is too much of a burden on you and that is why he made the decision to relieve you of the responsibility.

If you are willing to be his support then perhaps you could do this as a friend and reassure him that you will do the same if he ever wanted to get back together.

If he doesn't feel comfortable talking to you then perhaps you could suggest a professional instead.

People deal with these burdens in different ways, some shut down and keep it all bottled up and others rely heavily on their partner. It seems that he might be the former.

It may be that he needs some time by himself to address his own needs before he is able to be a source of support for someone else. All I can suggest is that you consider giving him some space right now. If you still care for him then you could reassure him that if he needs you- you will be there and take things from there.


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