Amelia asks :

Hi Lucy,

My partner’s parents have been living apart just over a year and their divorce was finalised about 6 months ago. It was very messy but recently his sister (28) has been forcing her father to get back and both parents are considering it as his mother is afraid of being alone. 

I feel as if both adults aren't thinking about how they feel or went through and are just getting back as it’s what their daughter wants. Please help- I don't want anyone to have to go through that divorce again!

 

Hi Amelia,

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It may be best to stay out of this one- if you get involved then it may only cause more upset within the family unit.

It is always tempting to get back with someone to avoid being alone, however if they had a messy divorce, they might realise that getting back together could result in the same outcome.

It is down to the couple and they might come to realise that their daughter is perhaps acting out of hurt rather than thinking about what's best for them.

I would suggest being there for them both and your partner if they need to talk about anything. If you were to tell them your thoughts they could backfire depending on what they decide, which could damage your relationship with them as well as their relationship with your partner.

It sounds like their divorce may have impacted on you and your family too; however it's important to remember that it is their relationship and their decision. They may get back together for the wrong reasons -it seems that being there as a sounding board and support system is all you can do right now.

It sounds like they are finding it hard enough to come to a decision as it is- if you're honest about your thoughts, it might make things even more confusing for them if they try to do right by others all the time.


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