Emma asks :

Hi Lucy,

My boyfriend doesn’t trust me and it’s ruining us- so depressed.

Our Reply

Hi Emma,

If you have given him no reason not to trust you then chances are something has happened with a previous girlfriend to make him feel this way. If someone else has cheated on him in the past this might have made him fearful of being hurt again and assume that history is going to repeat itself.  

Have you tried talking to him about it? It is difficult to show someone that you are trustworthy when they are not round you all the time- the last thing any relationship needs is being with one another 24/7 to prove a point. Trust is a very difficult thing to acquire if it’s not there from the beginning, so it will take a lot of work to get him to the point where he can trust you.

Have you considered couples counselling to try and work through these issues? If you feel that you have tried every other avenue then this might be the way to go.

It will likely take a lot of patience from you and cooperation to help him get to the point you are at- so it depends how strong your relationship is and if you are prepared to put in the time to help him through to the other side.

 


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