Holly asks :

Hi Lucy,

I'm on anti-depressants and I've got a healthy sex life with my boyfriend, who I feel completely comfortable and relaxed around. However, one of the side effects of anti-depressants is difficulty reaching an orgasm. My boyfriend knows this but it's really getting him (and me!) down that he can't make me come. We talk about it and he wants to make me come. It always feels like I'm going to; and he tries so hard, he's so selfless. He never has a problem coming but I don't want him to start thinking that it's him that the problem is with. Any advice?

Hi Holly,

 Any advice?

Any advice?

This sounds very frustrating for not only you but your partner too, when the medication might be helping you in some ways and not others.

Why not go back to your doctor and ask for a prescription change? As with medication like the pill, there are many differently varieties and so it might take a while to figure out which one suits you best. It might have had an impact on your depression, however this side-affect seems to be taking its toll on your sexual relationship too. It might be that you can find one very similar that will prevent this happening. Try talking to your GP about it and see what you can come up with between you.

It seems like you might be putting a lot of pressure on both of you to reach orgasm, it may be your goal, however if all you are fixated on is orgasm throughout, then this could be hindering your chances. Try to enjoy the journey and not rush foreplay or sex. Why not mix things up and try new ways to get each other off- it may be that your practiced routine has reduced your sensitivity- if you change the way you get each other off this might help you to enjoy new sensations as a reward.

 


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