Walter asks :

Hi Lucy, 

My best friend has this coat he wears that I find offensive, it's offends me so much I can't be seen with him in public with the coat anymore. How do I get him to get rid of the coat? Thanks

 

Hi Walter,

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What is it about the coat that you find so offensive? Is it the smell? Is it old? Unfashionable? Does it have something written on the back?

If you can pinpoint what it is about the coat you don't like then perhaps there's something you can do to help.

If its smells-why not take it to the dry cleaners for him? If it's old- why not encourage him to buy a new one and help him pick one out or give him one of yours if he can't afford one? If it has something written on the back, then perhaps you can tell him that you don't like the attention it attracts when you're out together.

If he's your best friend, then it shouldn't really matter how your friend dresses- just that you get to spend time in his company. It's not really up to you what he puts on his back. If you tell him how you feel he might carry on wearing the same coat anyway.

Perhaps you should try and focus on how he makes you feel when you're together and what you enjoy about the friendship and focus less on the coat. If he were to change his dress sense it wouldn't change him as a person. If you are too harsh about the coat then he may be offended and feel self-conscious when you're out together, which will have a direct impact on your friendship.


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