Hazza asks :
Hi Lucy,
I’m single male and I masturbate a lot whilst I watch porn on the net. I don't want to do this anymore, please help.
Hi Hazza,
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If you are intent on reducing the amount of time you spend masturbating then I would suggest that you take away all temptations. Ban yourself from the sites you have been accessing and try to get out of the habit. You can download a free internet screening device that will limit the sources of porn on your computer.
If you have a regular time when you watch porn and masturbate then try to do something else in place of this so you don’t fall back into old ways and have nothing else to think about. Try in the time you used to use to masturbate to start a new hobby, focus on your health or your social skills.
If it is talking over your life then perhaps you just need to distract yourself during those times you find are the most tempting, however if you deny yourself of it completely- then you might find that you continue a normal. Think of it like a diet- if you can’t have any of the foods you like, that is all you want. Try to limit yourself to a few times a week and stick to that for a while, then slowly reduce it down until you no longer do it.
If it is what you are watching that is the issue then perhaps you could rely on your fantasies to help you along. If you separate masturbation from porn, then you will slowly forget to associate the two.
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