How can I be close to my friend when I hate her boyfriend?

by Lucy Moore | 23 September 2015

Hi Summer,

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I would firstly ask why you don't like her boyfriend? Is it because he takes her time up that she could be spending with you? Are you jealous that she has a boyfriend if you don't? Do you think he is bad for her? Or do you simply not like his personality?

I would try to figure out what it is that you don't like about him first.

What I would say is that if you have been friends for a while, then you may have to learn to live with him while they are an item. If you don't get along, then try to see your friend as much as possible on her own so you don't have to lose your friendship.

Boyfriends come and go, so he may not be around forever, however while he is, you may need to make allowances.

If you tell her how you feel about him it could put her in an awkward position as she might feel that she can't socialise with you both at the same time. If she is besotted by him she may choose him over you, so tread carefully here.

If she senses that you don't like him and asks you why, then you need to be specific on why he's not your kind of person. A general dislike of someone can be difficult to accept without a reason behind it.

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by Lucy Moore for relationships.femalefirst.co.uk
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