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If you were in your old job for a while, it will take a period of adjustment before this new one or any new one becomes the norm. You may find that the longer you are there, the easier it is to ignore the 'bitchiness' and drama in your office environment.

With that said if your confidence has been knocked then you may not find the strength to drown out their 'belittling' comments.

Perhaps you could look for another job while you are still working there so you it won't affect your financial situation. This might give you the drive and focus to look for something else quickly so you can move on.

Although a job has to be the right fit; the people around you also need to be so you can perform at your best. If their behaviour is affecting your ability to do your job and having an impact on your health- it sounds like you are struggling on all counts.

Could you talk to your boss about it? Or could you ask to move to a different department? Could you look into getting your old job back or another position in your old firm?

Perhaps you could talk to a close friend or family member about all of this. It sounds like you may be lacking someone to offload to about your day. If you feel uncomfortable all day long, then it might be worth asking someone close to you to be your sounding board and talk through what's happening. If you have no way to release how you are feeling during the day then you may feel like you are getting no respite from feeling like you do at the office.

Sometimes a team gets a reputation for a reason and it can act as a warning to newcomers. If you do decide to look for something else then it might be worth asking around to find out what the people are like- it may have some truth to it and prevent this from happening again.


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