Lucie asks :
Hi Lucy,
Why do I always like the attention from guys? I never have sex or oral sex with them, but the first stages of talking to a guy really makes me happy. I'm never talking to just guy either; I'm always getting attention from at least 2 guys. Does this make me a bad person?
Hi Lucie,
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There is nothing wrong with a little harmless flirtation- it can be a lot of fun.
If you are not having sex with these men then you don't run the risk of STIs, unwanted pregnancies, or getting hurt emotionally by any of them if you are only investing a short amount of time talking to them.
It all seems quite innocent. I would say that if you rely on this to make your night, then perhaps ask yourself why. Does your happiness depend on other people's approval? Or attention? If so then you may want to think about breaking this habit now. Your worth is not dependent on how much a man talks to you or doesn't, what compliments he gives you or doesn't and how long he spends in your company or doesn't.
Make sure that you feel confident in yourself and this is not just a way of making yourself feel better about an insecurity or giving yourself an ego boost. The effects will only last a short amount of time and ultimately won't make you any happier.
If you're talking about a whole range of things- then it might be a positive that you are meeting new people and socialising but if the conversation always falls to sex- tread carefully. Some of these men may think that you want one thing- when you actually want another. It's only fair to be honest with people because neither sex likes to be led on.
If you know the guys you're talking to then you may already know where you both stand, however if you don't then it may not be the best idea to give them the wrong impression.
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