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7 December 2015

Is he playing games with me?

Hi Karen, People make excuses when they don't want to do something and somehow find the time to do things that they do. What I mean is- if he wanted ...
6 December 2015

My partner has now got a female roommate- what should I do?

Hi Julie, If you trust him then him having a female roommate should not be an issue, so is it possible that you don't trust him as much as you ...
5 December 2015

How can I tell my friend his coat offends me?

Hi Walter, What is it about the coat that you find so offensive? Is it the smell? Is it old? Unfashionable? Does it have something written on the back? If ...
4 December 2015

How should I cope with my man now he's changed?

Hi Cazzyboo, It sounds like most of your troubles arose after you had your baby. Perhaps he is struggling with parenthood and he's taking it out on you? Maybe ...
3 December 2015

Why does what happened on my fiancée's hen do bother me so much?

Hi John, The trouble with hen and stag parties is; things that wouldn't normally be socially acceptable suddenly become so. Under no other circumstance would your girlfriend let another man ...
3 December 2015

Is it wrong of me to leave my family at Christmas?

It can be difficult to break a habit with people when you have done the same thing for so long at Christmastime. The most important thing to remember is that ...
2 December 2015

When should I ask my girlfriend about her moment of weakness?

Hi Dave, If you trust her and you believed her when she told you that nothing happened, then it's not a lot to ask to discuss it with her. If ...

2 December 2015

I don't want to invite her for Christmas- do I need to explain?

Hi Helen, Christmas is a time where we all feel pressure to have people over who we don’t want to celebrate with. If your tradition is to celebrate Christmas then it ...
1 December 2015

How can I get my boyfriend to tidy up before I visit?

Hi Emma, You shouldn't have to clean up his mess- if he lets it get into such a state, then he should be the one to sort it out. With ...
30 November 2015

How can we tell her we don't want to live with her?

Hi Sarah, I would suggest that honesty is the best policy here- if you hang on till the end of the academic year- it will only make it harder to ...
30 November 2015

Why is my wife lying to me about where she's going?

Hi DD, If you offer her nothing but honesty in your relationship then you should expect the same in return. If you are suspicious about her behaviour then it may ...
26 November 2015

Why is he ignoring me after our date?

Hi Iliana, He might have been busy and neglected to text you because his mind has been on work or something else. Perhaps your opinions of the how the night ...
25 November 2015

Is he being truthful when he says I'm the love of his life?

Hi Rebecca, It seems that you both want different things here. If he's confused then it might hurt you less to walk away. If you were to bend your own ...
25 November 2015

Why do I feel that something isn't right with my partner?

Hi Mike, It sounds like something might be going on behind the scenes here to make her change her mind so quickly. Perhaps if you have paid for things like ...
24 November 2015

How can I get my boyfriend to trust me?

Hi Teniqua, It sounds like he may have residual trust issues from a previous relationship. If his last girlfriend cheated on him then maybe it has made him very sensitive ...
24 November 2015

How can I get over my love of 11 years?

Hi Hayley, After 11 years of feeling the same way it will be hard to alter your thought processes and break the habit of loving this person. Perhaps some counselling ...
23 November 2015

Why are we fighting so much since we've returned home from travelling?

Hi Nicole, Many couples suffer the most after a long holiday or travelling trip because they are trying to establish a routine again while dealing with the grief of not ...
20 November 2015

Should I get counselling for my jealousy?

Hi Hannah, The main thing to focus on is that he is with you and not his ex and not the woman he had casual sex with. He has a ...
20 November 2015

My husband sleeps in a different room- is this normal?

Hi Sally, Many couples sleep apart permanently or on a regular basis because of disruptions to sleep like snoring. You're certainly not alone. If you're keen to have your partner ...
19 November 2015

Should I tell him I've quit smoking?

Hi Sinead, It is understandable that he does not want to risk going through the hurt of losing someone else he cares about to cancer. The proof is always in your actions ...
19 November 2015

Why is my partner playing games with me?

If the times you are calling are not suitable then perhaps suggest that he calls you so he is not just about to go to bed- you may be catching ...
19 November 2015

Is my ex playing mind games with me?

It sounds like you have done everything within your power to try and explain yourself to get him back. It seems that this message has made him lose his trust ...
18 November 2015

My husband has been sexting another woman- what should I do?

Hi Broken, The first thing I would do is enrol in some couple's counselling to explore why he felt the need to text someone else other than you in a ...
18 November 2015

How can I communicate with my wife more effectively?

Hi Mark, In some respects- men and woman do speak a different language because we are motivated by different things and are sensitive to others that our partners might not ...