Some might say cheating is a despicable thing, others believe it’s necessary to the survival of their marriage- whatever your point of view- how do you feel about the people who chose to cheat on their partners on Christmas Day?

Yes there were people who had time for sex- with someone other than their partner

Yes there were people who had time for sex- with someone other than their partner

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK's leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, spoke to four of their members who managed to cheat on their partners, even on Christmas Day.

The site's spokesperson, Christian Grant, expands:

"For there to be a clear breakdown in one's relationship is bad enough. No one likes to be deceived, and we all want to patch things up when our relationship starts taking on some water.

"However, you'd think that there would be some exceptions... that the adulterers in question would have some moral lines that they simply could not cross; it's the one day of the year you'd think would be a clear no go. 

"Christmas is usually the loneliest time of the year for an adulterer, with their secret tryst spending an extended period of time with their significant other, but for these four people, Christmas Day was instead the perfect opportunity for a salacious get together that simply couldn't be missed.

"It's a damning indictment on the state of relationships today."

Case Studies

Kyle – 33 – London

“I've been having an on and off relationship with a woman for some time (I'll call her Nicole), but this was to be our first Christmas together.

“We normally try to get together at least a couple of times a month, and while we live in different parts of London, we work just a short train ride away, so meets after work have always been very convenient for us both.

“Fortunately, we both work jobs that require someone to be working on Christmas, so we both volunteered to work our respective Christmas shifts.

“It had been a couple of years since I’d worked at Christmas, so my wife was understanding in that respect, and in any case, it was only a half day, so I still managed to spend time with her and the rest of the family.

“Anyway, a half day it may have been, but it provided enough time for me to meet with her at a nearby hotel… you can guess the rest!

“We hadn’t originally planned to meet up over Christmas, but we both found ourselves in a similar boat; my marriage has been on the rocks for a few years, but it always shows its true colours around the holidays.

“Summer holidays with the family are unbearable by the end, and Christmas can be just as bad.

“I spoke to Nicole about this and she said that she was in a similar position, so we both agreed that it would be a good idea to have some much needed time away from our significant others, and I’m glad that we did.”

Michael - 44 - London

"I've been seeing someone that I met on the site for the best part of 4 months. She was the one who initially suggested meeting up around Christmas. Fortunately, she lives nearby (though this has normally caused us more problems than it has provided solutions).

"I dismissed the idea of meeting her on Christmas for the obvious reasons, primarily because of the logistical difficulties. However, she suggested we meet early in the morning.

"This works for me, as I'm normally up early to go for a run, so my absence in the early hours (should my wife have woken up) could have been excused. 

"Anyway, we met at a nearby day-use hotel that she'd booked in advance, did the deed, and on we went. Anyone who would have seen us leave the hotel that morning would have thought we were a loving couple who were celebrating Christmas in their own inimitable way, not two adulterers who'd just copulated."

Elle - 31 - Nottingham

"My colleague and I (we work for the police) have been having an affair since May. We've had sex at work a few times in the past, but we normally like to be as far away from people we know as possible.

"However, he suggested that we both work the Christmas Day shift - things are generally little bit quieter - as it would be the last opportunity we would have to 'see' each other for a little while.

"To cut a long story short, we slept with each other a few times throughout the day where we could.

"There was something thrilling about it, but I have to be honest and say that it felt more wrong than cheating on my husband on Christmas.

"I've never kidded myself and thought that I wasn't doing something bad by going behind my husband's back like this - I suppose I'm just greedy - but I'd be lying if I said that I didn't feel some regret after this; that's one of the main reasons I've written [to you], to get it off my chest."

Katie - 28 - Hertfordshire

"Every year I spend Christmas morning and lunch with my immediate family, before driving to my boyfriend's house in Ashford to spend the evening with him. Obviously, that drive in-between is my window of opportunity. The man I met on IE is widowed, so his Christmas plans were relatively empty, so, I stopped off at his place on the way to Kent.

"Both men offer something (physically and emotionally) that other doesn't, so I get the best of both worlds in that respect, though it's normally tough to juggle both. In any case, the opportunity arose, and I couldn't think of a good reason not to take it."


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