By sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox

Tracey Cox

Tracey Cox

What is an orgasm? We all know what it is but what actually goes on down there?

Sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox explains: ‘It’s the body letting go when it can’t stand the pressure of the increased blood flow in the genitals. ‘Orgasm is merely the process of the blood rushing back to where it came from and all those tense muscles releasing.’

What is a multiple orgasm?

'For a woman, it can be one of two things,' says Cox. ‘A multiple can mean one really long, super orgasm or two or three in a row. 'Women, unlike men, can climb back on and continue, but that’s not to say a man can’t have multiple orgasms either. ‘Men are capable of having non-ejaculatory orgasms. This is when the man experiences an orgasm in his brain and retains his erection but inhibits ejaculation by squeezing his PC muscle (the one that stops you weeing) and other techniques,’ explains Cox Men can also achieve multiple-ejaculation orgasms. ‘He has several orgasms in a row, all accompanied by full or partial ejaculation. Some men lose their erection fully each time and others maintain it.’

Is there such a thing as a vaginal orgasm?

'Most sex therapists say ALL orgasms originate from the clitoris and orgasms achieved by penetration only happen because the internal legs of the clitoris are being stimulated or the glans of the clitoris is being pulled by the act of thrusting. 'There’s also no doubt that  some women can orgasm through intense stimulation of the front wall of the vagina but that’s still not a vaginal orgasm because it’s stimulation of the female prostate and the area around the urethra.'

Exercise orgasms

Cox confirmed that a small amount of the population can orgasm through a sneezing fit. 'Ten per cent of women report achieving orgasm during exercise, some women can orgasm purely through nipple stimulation and (rare but true) some people orgasm when they have sneezing fits. 'It’s also been documented that a small percentage of people are able to bring themselves to orgasm purely through fantasy - with no physical stimulation whatsoever.'

Simultaneous orgasms

Cox says: 'Let's take a look at the facts. Roughly 75% of men in relationships always have an orgasm with their partner, compared to 30% of women. Do the math and you'll soon see the chances of both of you orbiting into orgasmic ecstasy at exactly the same moment is highly unlikely. Romantic, yes. Likely, no. Quite frankly, taking turns - you have your orgasm first, he has his later - is not only more practical, it's sometimes a lot more satisfying.'

How can we tell if your partner is faking it?  

'Look for the sex flush,' says Cox: ‘We all get a rash on our chest at the point of orgasm but it comes and goes in a split second so is easy to miss. ‘Most women are tender to touch straight afterwards, too. If you can touch her clitoris directly afterwards, she’s probably faked it.’

Women have one orgasm for every three of his

'A large-scale study of American adults found women have about one orgasm for every three a man has. One in three women have problems having an orgasm (via any means) with a partner and 80% CAN’T orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. Yet most women have no problems having an orgasm during masturbation, particularly if using a vibrator, and lesbians have almost many orgasms as men do.'

What makes it easier for a woman to orgasm?

The distance between the clitoris and vaginal opening predict your likelihood of vaginal orgasm If the distance is less than the width of a thumb, the clitoris is more likely to get stimulated through a ‘pulling’ sensation activated by thrusting.

World record for orgasms

The world record for the most orgasms in an hour is 134 for a woman and 16 for men These were achieved during an experiment done by the Centre for Marital and Sexual Studies in California. The longest orgasm on record was recorded in 1966 when a woman had a 45 second orgasm that involved 25 individual contractions.

Average duration of orgasms Research by online sex toy retailer Lovehoney found that female orgasms are on average 25% longer than male orgasms.

The female orgasm typically last 10.9 seconds while his climax is two seconds shorter at 8.7 seconds.

Here are the Lovehoney figures, based on a survey of 1,000 people. 

Hers

1 0-5 seconds 10%

2 6-10 seconds 46%

3 11-15 seconds 24%

4 16-20 seconds 10%

5 More than 20 seconds 7%

6 I've never had an orgasm 3%

His

1 0-5 seconds - 23%

2 6-10 seconds 50%

3 11-15 seconds 18%

4 16-20 seconds 5%

5 More than 20 seconds 3%

6 I have never had an orgasm 1%  

Tracey Cox has her own range of sex toys with Lovehoney, Britain's biggest online sex toy retailer.


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