A recent study has found that two out of three women don’t orgasm every time they have sex, which equates to 100 million missing orgasms in a week. Consequently, 1 in 10 women are faking an orgasm once a week to let their partners think they are getting them off.

Orgasms For All Protest

Orgasms For All Protest

As part of the Orgasms for All campaign and to raise awareness of these shocking stats, campaigners came together and took to the streets of London in protest.

Despite what women think- men do care whether their partner achieves the big ‘o’ so if you’re one of the women who’s missing out- Durex sexpert Alix Fox has some top tips to ensure you have an orgasm every time.

Most women can’t orgasm through vaginal penetration alone, so opt for positions with additional clitoral stimulation to help you reach the Big O. The clitoris has over 8,000 super sensitive nerve endings, so you’re almost guaranteed some fun. Try out the C.A.T., a cleverly modified version of missionary. Lay on your back with your partner on top, but tell him to slide his body further upwards, aligning his pelvis with yours so the base of his penis and pubic bone rub against the clitoris as he moves. The slower he is, the more you’ll purr with pleasure, and as the tip of the penis is the most sensitive part, he’ll feel all the sensation too.

In survey after survey, many men say Doggy Style is their favourite position, but for women, it doesn’t always end in fireworks. Kick things up a notch by holding a small bullet-style vibrator like the Durex Intense Bullet against your clitoris, during Doggy to ensure your hots spots feel the love.

Another great position to get things steamy is called The Legolas. Nope, it doesn’t have anything to do with Lord of the Rings! Instead, use your partner’s leg to stimulate yourself. Lay your partner on his back while you sit on top of him, facing away. He should then bend one of his knees, bringing his thigh up between your legs, so your clitoris rubs against it as you ride him.

Masturbate in front of your partner so they can learn from the expert (you!) exactly how you like to be touched. Sit them in a chair facing the bed and describe what you’re doing, the spot you’re touching and the speed you’re going. It’s a serious turn on and will help him know what works for you next time.

Practicing kegels will give you better, more intense orgasms. Clench your insides in exactly the same way you would if you were having a wee and wanted to stop the flow of liquid. Hold the squeeze while you count to three. Release, then repeat 10-20 times, three times a day. As you become stronger, try to hold each squeeze for longer, building up to ten seconds. After around three weeks, you should start to notice a delicious difference in how it feels if you squeeze the same way during masturbation or intercourse.

Make sure you communicate with your partner. It sounds simple but no matter how perceptive your partner is, there will be a limit to what they can learn about your likes from body language and moans alone. Communication is vital to climaxing: lovers need to have a proper, in-depth chat about what pushes both their buttons. Keep it relaxed, honest and genuine but avoid analysing a sex session straight after it's happened as your partner might feel like you’re judging them.

It is possible to orgasm from the illusive G-spot, found about 1-2 inches inside the vaginal opening. Use your fingers to push, tap or rub against the area using a ‘come hither’ motion and a regular rhythm. A dab of water-based lubricant like Durex Play Feel will help things feel more comfortably smooth and slick.

Make a conscious effort to flirt and play with your partner in the daytime as well as the evening. If you’re going out to dinner together, try making love before you leave the house instead of waiting until you get home, when you may well be exhausted/tipsy/bloated after a rich meal.

It can be frustrating if you’re ready and raring to go, but he’s struggling to get hard.  Cock rings offer a way to keep his penis harder for longer without chemicals, if you don’t want to resort to little blue pills yet. They do this by preventing blood from flowing out of the penis too quickly, keeping it engorged and solid. They also have the added boner bonus of increasing sensation for him – many men report that their orgasms feel stronger and more mind-blowing when they’re sporting a ring. Durex has a Pleasure Ring to give him a helping hand.

Use fragrances in the bedroom to create a more amorous ambiance. Look for lavender massage oils and scented candles (which will also cast a soothing, flattering, flickering glow when you turn out the lights), and try spritzing your sheets or the lace of your bra with cologne.


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