After a stressful December, what could sound nicer than a slow, sensual massage? Whether it's as a prelude to sex, or simply a treat for tired muscles, an erotic massage is the perfect way to connect physically and emotionally.

Pick your equipment

Pick your equipment

Finding tense spots in your partner's neck, shoulders and back then kneading and massaging them with your hands will not only remove physical pain, but it can help unblock their mind as they focus less on the pain and the stress associated with it.

A massage can be a simple stroking of the hands or a good going-over of the whole body. Whatever you decide to do, you'll soon realise the benefits to your health, your body, your relationship and your sex life.

Pick Your Equipment

Firstly, setting the mood for your massage is very important. Start by making the room you want to do the massage in warm - your partner will probably be naked or at least semi-naked so to stop shivers, turn up the heat.

You'll also want to dim the lights or light some candles. Harsh lighting can be an uncomfortable distraction during massage so bring in a little bit of romance with some fairy lights or tea light candles.

One of the most important parts of your massage is a slippery oil or lotion that will let your hands glide across their skin. Edible massage oil is perfect for this as the delicious smell will fill the room and get you both in the mood for some fun.

You can even combine soft lighting with scented oils in the form of a massage candle. In a variety of scents, from cherry, to watermelon, to white tea and ginger, these candles burn at a lower temperature than standard tea lights, meaning you can pour the melted oils directly onto the skin.

Tools like massagers, massage rocks and hot massage packs make giving an erotic massage a cinch, even if you've never done it before.

Technique Tips

No matter what part of the body you are massaging, there are some simple tips that apply almost everywhere. Be careful not to press too hard or cause any pain when you're giving the massage and take time to check in with your partner to find out which parts they enjoy most.

When massaging your lover, try to keep your bodies as close as possible and always maintain body contact. This will not only help you keep warm and stop your lover wondering, "Where did they go?" mid-massage, but it'll also give you both a connection that really sparks your eroticism and romance.

A massage book is a great way to learn the art of massage as it is clear and concise, but here are a couple of techniques to start you off:

Initial Touch

The first few touches you make should be long, lingering and purposeful. Psychologically speaking, firm contact will reassure your partner and make them feel safe (think of how a strong handshake makes an impression on a business partner, and you've got the gist).

Use this time to apply the massage oil or lotion to their body and get their skin warmed up. Your hands should be flat but your fingers should be relaxed, allowing them to splay and follow the natural contours of your partner's body.

Fingertips

Massage doesn't have to be intense and deep: in fact, doing the opposite can be both soothing and exciting at the same time. Using your fingertips, trace the contours of your partner's body.

Run your fingers through their hair, gently graze their neck with the pads of your fingers or follow the smooth curves of their lips with your thumbs.

This soft touching will give great results and allow you to move your touch from one area of the body to another fluidly.

Kneading Thumbs

Pressing, kneading and rolling the thumbs against the body is a great way to work out tension in the muscles. Press your thumbs against any body part and smoothly move them away from you, using the full extension of your thumbs. Moving each thumb, one after the other creates a continuous rolling sensation that will really get rid of knots and tight spots. This works especially well on the back, shoulders, feet and thighs.

Getting Intimate

If you hope that your massage will lead to something intimate, use a massage lotion that's safe as a personal lubricant and condom-compatible. Oil is not recommended for use as a lube, and it's not compatible with latex condoms.

A specially formulated massage lube or any of silicone lubricants are ideal because they will keep you slick and sensual all over, allowing you to go seamlessly from massage to sex.

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