Psychologist Donna Dawson tells us why flexing your chuckle muscle with your partner is so important.
Humour makes large problems appear smaller - laughing at problems diminishes their power to make us anxious, and helps them to appear more manageable.
Humour brings you closer together - sharing the same sense of humour gives you a very important personality trait in common, as it encourages you both to view the world and deal with it in the same way.
Laughter releases feel-good hormones in the brain – namely, ‘serotonin’, which makes you feel calmer and happier. And if you feel better about yourself, you will feel better about your partner.
Humour leads to other positive feelings: such as admiration; we admire someone who can make us laugh, which in turn makes us think more highly of them.
Humour de-fuses stress – which in turn relaxes us, making us more amenable to affection and romance.
Humour can deflect embarrassment – if we can make a joke about an embarrassing situation that we find ourselves in, we invite people to laugh at the ‘situation’ and not at ‘us’. It gives us back power in a seemingly powerless situation.
Humour can deflect anger – a humorous remark, if not sarcastic, can make a point in a more clever way than an angry remark can, causing the offending person to see things in a more objective, less personal way.
Humour is sexy – when our partner or date makes us laugh and changes our mood, it shows that they are in control of the situation – which, in turn, can act as a powerful aphrodisiac.
Humour creates secrets to share – finding things funny in public situations where you can’t openly express the humour creates a secret understanding between the two of you – it’s “you two against the world”.
Laughter is contagious – when we share our wit and good humour with others around us, it can change the whole atmosphere and make everyone else feel as good as we do.
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