Travel Supermarket has found that 5 months is the ideal time to be with your partner before going off on holiday together. Although this can be a very exciting time- women feel a number of anxieties before they get on the plane. We take a look at those that cause the most stress and offer tips on how to overcome it.

Relationships on Female First

Relationships on Female First

Spending too much time together- At home you can go to another room or back to your place if you feel you need some space- but on holiday, there is nowhere to hide. What if you begin to aggravate each other?

Tip:

It's ok to admit you need space-everyone needs time to themselves. You could stop in the hotel room and take a bath, while your partner goes down to the beach, or vice versa. You could ask your partner to go and get a few drinks by themselves and give you and hour or so to get ready for your evening meal. You could pop to the spa while he takes a dip in the pool. Chances are he might be quite thankful of the 'me time' too.

Having an argument- What if you find something that you disagree over, you can't storm off or call each other later to sort it out- you have to face it there and then- but what if it's a deal breaker?

Tip:

All arguments are better nipped in the bud as soon as they're over. Try to remember that shouting will get you nowhere and you might even get a complaint from the people in the next room. You are probably still learning things about each other, some you will like and others you won't. You can still be successful in a relationship when you have differing points of view on things. Not the major stuff- but two different attitudes can result in constructive conversation just as much as it can in fighting.

Sharing a bathroom- You might have manged to give the illusion you don't ever poop up until now- now you have to do it with him in potential hearing range. What if you have a bad reaction to the food? It doesn't bear thinking about.

Tip:

Everyone poops- that's a fact. If he can't handle that your food has to go somewhere, then he needs a reality check. It's likely that if one of you is ill, you both will be anyway if you share the same food. It'll probably be one of those stories you laugh about if you stay together. If nothing else, it will break the ice.

Your partner seeing you in swimwear- He's seen you naked but often under the forgiving light of your bedside light. With the sun out, he'll be able to see every bump of your cellulite and every bit of your muffin top. What if he doesn't like what he sees in the cold light of day?

Tip:

If he's had sex with you and been with you this long- he finds you very attractive. He's probably loving the fact that he gets to see more of you than he would at home because bathing suits are acceptable attire here. If he looks disappointed it's likely because you're not naked and your suit is covering up your funs parts. And that muffin top just means that you'll enjoy good food with him when the sun goes down at the pool cafe.

Your partner being rude to staff- What if he's rude to waiting staff? It's not only embarrassing but goes against what you believe is right. Can you potentially put up with this side of him if this is the attitude he always adopts?

Tip:

Worry about your own behaviour- not his. If he's rude- be extra nice to compensate for it. As long as you conduct yourself in a way that you deem to be right, that's all you have control over. If it's something that bothers you that much- it might be worth asking what he wants and ordering for both of you at the bar.

Flirting with other holidaymakers- What if he's attracted to someone more than you? What if he thinks fliting's ok to do on holiday when you don't?

Tip:

If he flirts with someone else on holiday then you have a snapshot of how he might be when you're not around and how trustworthy he is.

If he thinks that this is ok and you don't- it might be worth telling him there and then. Holiday is the perfect time to flirt with each other so try to maximise that. If he can't deal with this then it may be something you have to address back at home. Or flirt too- and play him at his own game!


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