Break-ups can be like a tornado ripping across our lives, tearing up everything we know and destroying our routines. So, it's important to know how to cope in the aftermath and to make sure your clean-up operation helps put you back on the path to happiness.
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A good spring clean will help you in lots of areas of your life. It's a good chance to clear out the clutter that may be holding you back from letting go and moving forward with your life. Here are my top tips that will make the most positive impact on your life:
- Reclaim your wardrobe space. Pack up your ex’s clothes and put them out of view. You don't want a constant reminder of them so put them in the loft, garage, storage, hand them back or bin them if appropriate.
- Remove photos of your ex and replace them with happy times with friends or other family members. Be careful if you have children as they may be sensitive to this. Either keep some photos in their bedrooms only or remove them slowly over a period so they don't notice it happening.
- A good sort out of cupboards after a break-up can be very therapeutic. Getting rid of clutter, you have accumulated during your relationship is symbolic of letting go. You don't have to throw things away if you don't feel ready to, you can always just store them out of view.
- Spring clean your mind. Take some time to work out what you want from life now you are single. Write down what you enjoy and want more of in your life. Also write down what you don't enjoy and want to stop doing. Make a plan to make these things happen.
- Set some exciting goals for your future. These can be small or big such as improving your diet now you don't have to cook for your partner or travelling to a new place that they never fancied visiting.
- Do a friend detox. If there are people in your life that don't make you feel happy or good about yourself now is a good time to let them go. You don't have to be unkind or make a big deal over it, rather just make a conscious decision in your own mind not to connect with them moving forward. A social media cull is also very therapeutic.
- Refresh your look and feel. It's always a good time to make some changes to the way you look, what you wear, your daily routine or even your home. Sometimes it's the smallest changes can have the biggest impact on how you feel. Have a think about some changes you can make. Ideas include wearing a new colour, moving your furniture around or using a different supermarket.
Spring cleaning your life after your break-up will help to give you a much needed boost and a fresh start. It may be the end of your relationship but it is the beginning of the next chapter of your life. So, make it a good one!
For more specialist advice on how to survive and thrive after your break-up, visit www.saradavison.com
Sara Davison is an expert break-up, separation and divorce coach who has developed the UK's first bespoke divorce coaching program providing individuals with the tools, techniques and practical advice needed to help better navigate and cope with the rollercoaster of divorce.
For more information on Sara, book a one-to-one consultation, or a place on her next Break-up Recovery Retreat, logon to her website www.saradavison.com or follow her on Facebook (Sara Davison Divorce Coaching), Twitter (@SDDivorcecoach) and Instagram (SaraDavisonDivorceCoach)
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