When it comes to relationships, it seems everyone has very different ideas of which elements are the most important to make sure you're happy with someone else. However, what people tend to forget it that a good relationship doesn't just happen, you've got to work at it but fear not, there are ways and means of making it work a lot more naturally. And where do these ways and means come from? Your personalities of course. Sure, a lot of us are guilty of focusing on the exterior when we're seeking out potential partners and yeah, physical attraction plays a part, but it's tremendously important to find a personality match because, well, your personalities affect….
How compatible you are
It's pretty self-explanatory but compatibility comes predominantly from your personalities. A person who is outgoing and extroverted may not match so well with another who is shy and introverted. Why not? Well they could give it a go, but think of it like this, the outgoing person will be chatting away in a crowd, having a laugh, getting to know new people, whereas the shy person will be hanging back and avoiding all conversation. Not quite the couple you'd picture really is it? A first date will generally give you the green light on compatibility as it will become evident pretty quickly!
How empathetic you are
Let me try and put this into perspective, you're a hard-working business man or woman, you work in excess of 50+ hours a week and you're passionate about doing your job and doing it well, whereas your partner works part time 10 hours a week and the rest of the time, likes to sit on the couch watching Netflix. You come home from work and ask your partner if they will do something for you (wash a few plates for instance) and their response is "Aw no can you do it? I've had a really hard day" How do you feel? Empathetic? Course not! However hard this person's day might have been, these two people have different priorities and personalities, therefore the amount of empathy they have for one another differs completely and you know what that means? Arguments, passive aggressiveness and someone probably sleeping on the couch a lot.
How confrontational you are
This is a complete no brainer. The more compatible you are, the less confrontational you'll be. If your personality matches with another, you'll have more understanding, empathy, similarities, therefore a lot less reasons to shout and scream at one another for trivial things. Let's face it, if you're a couple that doesn't argue from time to time, there must be something not quite right, a bit of confrontation is perfectly natural but daily tiffs over who's doing the dishes or who's turn it is to put the light out suggest a serious personality mismatch which could be detrimental to the success of the relationship. Trust me, aint nobody got time for that.
How patient you are
Patience is, as they say, a virtue, and an integral part to a successful relationship. Whenever we begin a new relationship, conventional wisdom suggests that it's always a bit of a rocky road to start with as we're still figuring out boundaries, comfort zones, the whole kit and caboodle so someone with a patient personality will be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel, which is what we want right? The less patient someone is, the more confrontational they're likely to be, and the only fireworks you really want in a relationship are the ones that resemble your passion, not your aggression, so make sure you match this way, for the fireworks, if not for anything else!
How trusting you are
Granted this doesn't always just come down to personality, you may have had a bad experience in the past which has left you with unwelcome feelings and that's fine as long as you work to get rid of them but generally speaking, you personality will determine how trusting you are, as well as how trustworthy you are. This covers traits such as loyalty and honesty - big personality players in any relationship - and it's gotta be a match for it to work. The more you have in common, the more you click, the more you just "get" each other, the more trusting you will be. Simples.
How similar you are
When we think of personality, sometimes we just think of traits but what to remember is that those traits relate to certain activities - the way you like to spend your time - for instance, a competitive person might like to get involved in outdoor sports, whereas a creative person might like to paint, or an outgoing person might like to go out with friends at the weekend. You still with me? OK, good. If your personality matches with your partner, then that's great because you'll probably want to do the same things together, go to the same places, you catch my drift, whereas if you're mismatched, you're going to end up doing things you don't want to do to please the person and then hold a grudge that you've done something you don't want to do. C'mon, I think we all know what I'm talking about.
How willing you are to invest
No, I'm not talking financially, well not really. I'm talking about investing in a person. The more matched you are in terms of your personality, the more likely you are to form a strong bond quick smart with this seemingly significant other. You might even commit quicker than you thought, but that's okay, because a strong match makes for a whole lot of trust, respect, loyalty - the works - so basically you're left feeling like you have nothing to lose, and 9 times out of 10, you're probably right!
Of course, these are just 7 reasons of which I can only assume there are many, as to why a personality match is so important to a relationship but the main reason? It will affect how happy you are. I know it sounds cliché but that really is the long and short of it. To make sure, you could even try the PersonalityMatch app and see just how compatible you really are but in a nutshell, you'll know deep down and as long as you're happy, then we are too!
By PersonalityPerfect.com for Femalefirst.co.uk
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