10 Ways to increase your confidence in your relationships

14 February 2017

If your relationship is experiencing the blues this winter, it might be in need of a little nurturing and TLC.

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Get Clarity. If your relationship is starting to feel off, the first place to look is within. Take some quality ‘me’ time to reflect and re-energise. Reconnect with your feelings and don’t be afraid to ask yourself “what do I need?”. Doing this will give you clarity and controlwhich is a great confidence booster.

Get Authentic. Ditch the facades and mind games. It can be so exhausting trying to be anything other than yourself and is a sure way to diminish your confidence. Brené Brown defines authenticity as the daily practice of letting go of who we think we are supposed to be and embracing who we are.

Get Real. Time to be serious. Make the time with your partner to communicate and express feelings in a positive and constructive way. Establish ground rules before you communicate. What is going is well?What would be even better if thingschanged? Don’t assume anything and ask questions.

Get Passionate. Develop hobbies and interests outside of your relationship. Do a course in photography, sewing, compete in the Great British bake off or become the next master chef. Whatever your passion is, get inspired and watch your confidence grow in leaps and bounds.

Get Playful. Make time to laugh out loud literally. Life can be too serious at times and it is important to put things in perspective. Being silly and playful with your partner will help to release happy hormones and release stress and tension.

Get some Girl Power. Make time for your BFF’s and Besties. There is nothing like solidarity and sisterhood between true and trusted friends to remind you of how strong, capable and brilliant you are.

Get Moving. Exercise is great stress reducer and quick way to feel good about yourself. The better you feel, the more confident, receptive and optimistic you will be in your relationship. Better still, get moving together. Go for long walks or runs together which will help you reconnect whilst getting fit.

Get your Game On. Complacency in relationships can make things feel boring and mundane which can erode confidence. Time to ditch the raggedy old t-shirts for a bit of glam, sensuality and sophistication. When you look good, you feel good.

Get Sensual. Be intentional about touching and holding each other to create warmth, good vibes and connection. Splash on a bit of perfume whilst you are at it and you will be irresistible!

Get Giving. Don’t make it just about you. Go the extra mile to do something thoughtful for your partner. There is a saying, it is much better to give than to receive. We feel good about ourselves when we pour into others, especially our loved ones. When we feel good, we feel confident.