Many marriages end unhappily, however according to Victoria Milan, having a mutual bank account might just be the thing that saves you from separating.

Relationships on Female First

Relationships on Female First

The main reasons cheaters don't seek a divorce is the fear of loneliness- many say the thought of being alone terrifies them and not even the company of someone else in their bed will fill the void of having no spouse.

Secondly, adulterers don't want to break up the family unit- many are concerned how separating will affect their children. Others worry what other people would think of them- whether friends or family would disown them because of their choices.

As we know, divorce costs a fair amount of hard earned cash when you take into account alimony payments and housing arrangements so many would prefer to stay in a loveless marriage than have to fork out for the fees.

Some couples still love each other as friends after infidelity so stay together as living under the same roof is manageable for them.

For some husband and wife teams- one being unfaithful achieves a good balance and is the thing that brings them closer together.

Some husbands and wives fear not finding anyone else - they may be able to sustain a sexual relationship with another person, but that doesn't necessarily mean that another emotional relationship will come along.

With a marriage comes a certain amount of certainty and many people can't cope with an uncertain future.

The one deal breaker however is if physical or mental abuse was in the equation- 85% of cheaters would sign the papers without another thought if their partner was abusive.

Other factors include if the cheater fell in love with the person they'd been sleeping with, if living together becomes unbearable or both spouses are cheating.

Founder and CEO of Victoria Milan, Sigurd Vedal, said divorce might seem like an easy way out for many, but the reality is, staying married is easier.

" Freedom comes at a huge price, and when there are children and investments involved, often it becomes easier not to rock the boat and just stay married. Cheaters say money and loneliness are the number one reasons they don't divorce, but for 6 out of every 10 it's not so bad - they love their partner as a friend," Mr Vedal said.


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